Lessons in Love and the Pursuit of Happiness at any Age

By Becky Larson, SacMidtown.com

It’s been said with age comes wisdom. I think in most aspects of life this saying can be found truthful.

I feel wiser in my professional life now than I did when I first stepped into the workforce after college. I feel wiser about my financial choices and even most of the time make wiser decisions about what I eat. But I’m not yet necessarily convinced it applies to love.

Does getting older in love make us wiser in love?

I’ve found there are a few different categories of people when it comes to love as we get older.  One category of people is very much aware they’re getting older and are deathly afraid of the idea their clocks are ticking. This group typically finds the next person walking down the street and decides to marry them without a lot of consideration for whether or not they’re really compatible. However, this group might be considered wiser because if our clocks are ticking we better make a move fast. After all, one of mankind’s biggest fears is dying alone.

Another group goes in the completely opposite direction. They tend to instead become more particular about who they choose to settle down with. Most of them figure they’ve done ok by themselves for so long they can keep waiting until “the one” comes along. This group of people may have become wiser with age because they are no longer willing to settle for less than they deserve. However, these people may have also become so set in their ways as they’ve aged that they are unwilling to compromise (probably not the wisest decision).

Whether or not the last group has become wiser with age is definitely the one most up for debate. But then again maybe this group has outsmarted us all. This is the group that will forever be bachelors and bachelorettes. They can often be found hitting on significantly younger groups of the opposite sex. Many times, they have decided they won’t settle for anyone with less than stellar good looks. For some, maybe this is the wise way to go. Maybe a relationship doesn’t have to be all that meaningful as long as you’re having fun.

No matter what category you fall into, the wise thing to do is make sure you’re happy and content with the situation you’re in at any age. Love can get complicated and confusing no matter how old you are. But the key is to never settle for less than what you want or deserve.

In the end, getting older can make you wiser in love as long as you’ve learned lessons along the way and you try not to repeat the same mistakes over again.

About Jimmy Spencer

Jimmy Spencer has extensive experience in journalism and new media. As the founding editor of SacMidtown.com, Spencer combines his writing, reporting and editing skills to produce a "pretty good site about midtown." During the day, Spencer covers government and also covers the NBA. At night, he watches T.V. and plays on the Internet. Every now and then, he walks around his midtown neighborhood. Spencer began his professional journalism career with The Sacramento Bee, finishing his tenure with the McClatchy-owned newspaper in the new media department. Spencer moved to Connecticut where he continued his growth in new media as a writer/content producer for NBC Sports. Spencer also worked in media relations with the Sacramento River Cats, Minor League Baseball Triple-A affiliate of the Oakland A’s. Spencer graduated with a Bachelor of Arts degree in journalism from California State University, Sacramento where he served as Editor-in-Chief of The State Hornet campus newspaper. Spencer was raised in Marin County and currently lives in Sacramento, Calif. Spencer works in the community as a high school basketball coach in the Sacramento area.


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