Pre-Marital Bliss Over Bias

By Frances Macias-Phillips, SacMidtown.com

19 days from today, I am getting married. And that means it’s officially time to get excited. So this past weekend my fiancé and I marked the time-honored traditions of bachelor and bachelorette parties.

I am opposed the basic premise of these types of parties. I generally think of them as a drunken version of last rites… the last day of “freedom.” No offense to my fiancé, but I’m going to be free (insert thankfulness that I was born in the U.S.A.) every day for the rest of my life. And so will he.

It’s what we choose to do with that freedom that will change. We will choose the “we” over “I,” even when it isn’t what we necessarily want. As my Matron of Honor put it yesterday, not being selfish is hard sometimes. But that’s the point, married couples choose to love and put “we” first.

Bridal Chalice

With those sentiments in mind, at my fiancé’s request, we did have a party. Yes, one party. It was our excuse for the bridal party, many of whom hadn’t or wouldn’t have otherwise met until rehearsal, to get to know one another.

The guys first headed off to the gun range and then bottled beer, while the girls came to my house for games and pre-party festivities. At eight, a party bus came to pick everyone up and take us over to dinner at Ink.

Dinner was PERFECT for this type of evening and they were even willing to serve me in my “Bridal Chalice.”

After a couple hours of good food, conversation and a selection of drinks, we were ready to hit the town. We hopped out at a few bars but the atmosphere just wasn’t what we really wanted. When it came down to it, my fiancé was right – everyone just wanted to get to know one another. So instead of going dancing as planned, we cruised around midtown.

It’s surprising how much fun you can have with some of your closest friends (and family) in one big bus. We had a great time and I learned an important (pre)marital lesson, giving-in to my future husband’s requests can actually be a pretty good idea after all.

For any of you that have bridal parties that are strewn across the county, like ours, I highly recommend the joint party route.

When it comes to weddings, I feel like couples often feel bound by traditions. I know I did. But this is our wedding, so we’re making it what we want. And having fun in the process.

About Frances Macias-Phillips

Frances was raised in Rocklin before attending Boston College, where she graduated in 2007. While in college, she discovered her love of running while training for the Boston Marathon with a BC charity. When she isn’t working or running, she enjoys spending time with friends, family and her fiancé, Dan. She currently lives in Sacramento with their dog, Doodle.

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2 Comments for “Pre-Marital Bliss Over Bias”

  1. Joint party bus ride is a great idea. Most of the party buses I have been it has been a bachelor only but I have been on 2 joint ones and they are just as fun if not more fun. Why party just with the guys or just with the girls when you can party together.

  2. Terri Coronado-Dunn

    Admirable. I hope I am so lucky to have my 3 children, Jimmy, Danielle, and Nicole grow up to be just like you!
    Best wishes beatiful Frances.

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